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Bad Relationships Make You Sick

Barbara McBean

by Barbara McBean

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January 20, 2021


Our body is a truly awe-inspiring thing. Its ability to heal and regenerate is astonishing and is still not completely understood by our medical community. Everybody reacts differently to everything. Every body heals in different ways and at different rates. Doctors don’t like this uncertainty of course, and, in typical left-hand-path fashion, try to control the situation as directly as possible. This gives them a certain margin of success, but for the most part it’s usually still primarily a crapshoot.

Where they fall very short are with stress-induced ailments. And, unfortunately, most of our ailments these days just so happen to be caused by stress. Doctors are completely baffled by these things and often just imply that it’s all in your head. Which, yes it is – thanks Tips – but for a doctor, that will be the end of the conversation. Now you could pick that conversation up with a psychiatrist, but they don’t make any money if you get better. So best of luck with that option, hope you enjoy pills.

So we’re left to solve this riddle on our own. What, then, is the true source of this stress that is causing so many problems? Is it from being overworked? Is it from being underpaid? Is it from the build-up of all the daily aggravations of the modern world? Not really. They don’t help, but things like less nutritious food, chemical additives, electromagnetic radiation and a host of other toxins are much worse. But I really think it’s deeper, I believe it’s because something is missing. Energy is being blocked.

I feel that one of the biggest culprits out there are toxic relationships. Nowadays, it seems so many are stuck in unfulfilling relationships. It’s so prevalent that it’s considered normal now, and we all just help each other live with it. This is rooted in the unconscious or semi-conscious desires that have been ingrained in us by cultural and biological forces. The concept has officially been referred to as idealization or infatuation, if you’re doing some research.

We collectively forgot how to look for love. We forgot how to differentiate between lustful desires and strong, deep connections. We started believing that the feeling of neurochemicals releasing in our brain is a sign of love and real connection. We no longer care to remember that a true, lasting bond is formed exclusively through the heart. The rest is basically just temptation.

We used to strategically weed out “the rest” and seek that special someone. Now we just truck through the weeds until we end up trapped beside one of them, stuck in the swamp, convincing ourselves it’s our fault that the swamp is dirty. Then just live out our lives trying in vain to clean it and turn the swamp into a natural hot spring oasis. You’re going to need to move a mountain.

At least the elderly still remember what is real. And the elderly couples who have been together for 75 years or whatever do have a pretty solid consensus, which can be summarized with the phrase “Marry your best friend.” So maybe look for that person you never need a break from.

Of course, there are so many reasons people may stay in an unhealthy relationship. But I think a popular one is low self-esteem and feeling like you don’t deserve anything better, or that you won’t find anyone else and if you do they will probably leave you eventually. Or that you don’t want to spend that much time with somebody. That sort of thing. All of this keeps your vibes low, further blinding you to the bigger picture hidden in plain sight. Truth is, if you’re with the right person, spending the whole day together won’t seem like enough time.

But now we find ourselves in an uncertain world because no one is quite sure if love is even real any more. We are afraid to truly love any more. But love is light and without it, darkness can flourish. Without good energy flowing through your whole vessel, a void is left that bad things are happy to fill. That negativity lowers your vibration and causes problems that appear to defy explanation.

As far as being with the wrong person goes, many studies have shown that being in a bad relationship can harm not only your mental health, but your physical health as well. The stress of constant tension or conflicts in a relationship can keep your body in a fight-or-flight mode all the time, which causes your body to produce adrenaline and quickly discard the excess. This can eventually lead to fatigue, a weakened immune system and can even cause organ damage.

Researchers have found that women in bad relationships tend to have similarly high blood pressure and high blood sugar levels. It has been shown that the wrong relationship can put people at a higher risk of heart problems than those in healthy relationships. Research also found that being with the wrong person can even slow down the healing of wounds!

While life will always leave scars, wounds do heal. Our bodies do indeed regenerate, as do our spirits. Remember that darkness can only exist if light is blocked. Remove whatever is in your life that blocks your light, and you will shine. You will brighten the whole world and good things will gravitate to you while bad things will be repelled. You will heal emotionally and you will heal physically. And then you can start to live again.

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